Emotional Intelligence in Children
Emotional intelligence influences how children perceive the world and how effective they are in dealing with the world. We can teach EI to any child but without instruction, they grow up with the emotional intelligence they absorb from their parents. Higher emotional intelligence creates higher level coping skills. A highly emotional intelligent child is likely to be led astray by others in the peer group. They become a less likely candidate to be bullied.
Later in life emotional intelligence is a key factor in establishing and maintaining working relationships. Emotional intelligence is a three part process.
- Being aware of the sensitive information around you and within you.
- Knowing what to do about it.
- Having the ability or mental skills to do what you decide you need to do.
Emotional intelligence in children is affected by the degree of emotional intelligence in parents and caregivers. Higher emotional intelligence in adults results in the child’s emotional and other needs are being met. Key factors are avoiding early trauma and separation from the mother.
Developing Emotional Intelligence in Children Early On
Emotional intelligence is important because it facilitates emotional expression and deepens connections with others. Improves social experience altogether. Parents help kids set the tone for how they deal with relationship management as they grow. They also help show them through behaviors how to be or not be resilient, how to handle stress in healthy ways. It teaches them how to build rapport or deal with anger in healthy ways.
Give children lots of opportunities to practice emotional intelligence. Have them join social clubs or sports clubs while at the same time asking your child in the evening how does day go, how he is feeling, what a particular situation caused by his emotions, etc. Ways to develop EI in kids includes helping children learn to name emotions, work through anger and disappointment and show self-compassion.
Five Ways to Use Emotional Intelligence with Children
1) Help children become self-motivated by taking on a task and completing as much as they can themselves. Children need to have positive self-talk of themselves.
2) Help children use self-regulation to understand that school is very much like work. They have to put in the time both at school and at home studying. Children need to be aware of other children attempting to belittle or persuade them in a negative way.
3) Help children with self-awareness by getting them to tune into their emotional states both at school, at home, and with friends and relatives. Children need to assess their strengths and weaknesses and not dwell so much on their weaknesses. They need to attempt to develop deficiencies to remain competitive but also focus on their strengths as much as possible.
4) Children need to understand how lucky they are compared to another less fortunate group of children. Help children have more empathy.
5) Help children build effective relationships by being part of a team at school, with friends, and at home. Children need to be aware that school is critical along with family time. Balancing both can be enhanced by using the four suggestions above.
To teach a child these critical skills, you must be able to enter his/her view of the world. A child must also see the value in learning emotional intelligence skills. An excellent way to create purpose and relate this value of learning to children is to read books. Make sure to chose the ones that enhance the importance of EI skills and model EI-Building responses.
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