Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child
Emotional intelligence in children allows them a greater sense of safety as they begin to see that their experience makes sense. Emotionally Intelligent Child can link together thoughts and feelings via EI, they are no longer victims of an experience happening to them. But rather they are participating in their multi-layered response to the world. It can be taught to any child but without instruction they grow up with the emotional intelligence they absorb from their parents.
Importance of Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child
Children begin developing emotional intelligence as infants. Parents can start teaching them EI from day one by being congruent with their thoughts, feelings and actions with a child and employing empathy. Often we assume that a child with highly developed language should be able to articulate emotions. But consistently linking words and feelings are rare.
Supporting children in increased emotional awareness is best accomplished when adults have consciously developed their EI. Specific ways parents might do this at home would be to name and model how behaviors link to thoughts and feelings. It could be as simple as playing board games and calling the sense of excitement, disappointment.
Another benefit is that Emotionally Intelligent Child tend to have less shame. When children have low levels of emotional awareness, they have high levels of acting out behaviors. Therefore these are commonly admonished or punished. When you start to notice the kinds of ideas that you think that allow to withstand discomfort. Then use these ideas in real life situations. Like a stressful exam or test in school, a fight with a friend and more.
Of course, the development of each of these skills rests on your ability to like yourself and have a good relationship with yourself. It is because if your inner voice is always telling you that you’re not good enough. In such scenario, it’s going to be very hard to develop confidence, empathy and tolerance altogether.
Emotional Intelligence at the Workplace
Further, moving up in the workplace depends largely on your emotional intelligence as well. Employers now have more and more people to choose from with the right qualifications regarding education and skills. You may be able to land that entry level job with basic skill requirements and general education. For your child to succeed and move up in their position, they are going to need EI to get to that Next level.
Beware of the Pitfall
A parent’s pitfall is wanting a child not to have to feel strong emotions. Which means that they not only don’t get to have a supported experience of having the feeling, They only get a message that there is something especially undesirable about those mixed emotions.
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